How to stay sane as a stay at home mom
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As a stay at home mom, you can often feel a lot of feelings. You go from excited, to being grateful, to feeling completely overwhelmed in a matter of minutes. And sometimes, it will make you feel like you are going insane. Here’s 5 tips to help you stay sane!
1. Take time for yourself.
Make sure you have time planned in your day in which you take care of yourself. This doesn’t have to be a fancy spa date, it just means you will spend time without having to take care of someone else. You might want to take a shower, go for a walk or just sit down and drink your coffee while the house is quiet. Whatever fills your cup! As long as you make it a priority!
2. Lower your social media usage.
The number one thing that will make you feel inadequate, not doing enough or just make you feel overwhelmed, is social media. Why? Because on Instagram and Facebook we see all these perfect images of moms who have their act together all.the.time. You will start to compare your house with those perfect homes and schedules and it will instantly make you feel bad.
But guess what?!
Social Media isn’t realistic. Those moms just show you the things that looks good on instagram, not the huge mess on the other side of the room or the behaviour of their children 10 minutes earlier. Don’t be fooled by the perfect pictures.
Social media is likely the biggest trigger when it comes to feeling overwhelmed or not good enough. So cut down your hours. A lot!
3. Teach your kids to play independantly.
I have talked about this before, but this has been such a game changer! Having kids that can actually play on their own will make your life so much easier.
In this post I shared what I did to teach our kids to play independently. Now our kids are 6 and 3 (and an 8 month old) and they can both play on their own for up to an hour. This allows me to take a step back, enjoy a cup of coffee or read my Bible.
4. Wake up before your kids do
Another helpful thing we implemented into our routine is waking up before our kids. We read ‘the 5am club’ by Robin Sharma and wake up at 5am ever since. It’s definitely hard, but it allows me to stretch, get ready, do a load of laundry and prepare my husbands lunch all before the kids wake up. And sometimes I can even get some work done!
You don’t have to wake up at 5am like we do, but even if you wake up 30 min before your kids wake up, you could do some much needed self care in quiet.
I don’t know about you, but taking a nice shower without the kids walking in every 2 minutes sounds like a dream to me!
5. Give yourself grace
And last but definitely not least, be gentle on yourself. Give yourself grace. Some days you will get a ton of things done and other days all you did was feed the kids. And it’s all good!
Society keeps telling us we always need to do more more more. But sometimes all we need to do is less. You don’t need to do twenty tasks in an hour, just hang out with your kids and bake some cookies or read a book to them.
It’s not about doing more, it’s about being present.
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Now I am curious, what time do you wake up? Let me know below!
X Steph